"Be positive," "think positive and positive things will happen," "see the positive in everything." These days, anywhere you look you can find motivational quotes promoting positive thinking. While nothing beats good ol' positivity, the constant bombardment of positive thinking completely disregards the very real pain we all experience on a regular basis. It seems feeling down is becoming less and less acceptable and no one talks about it anymore. I mean, 'cause why should you feel sad? Feeling sad is a choice right? Let's be real, positive thinking might help with dealing with negative feelings but why classify anything other than "happy" as negative. Sometimes we feel sad, why make it taboo to talk about? It's just part of the human experience. Pretending it doesn't exist doesn't make it disappear and in the long run makes things harder as your unresolved "negative" feelings begin to build up. Nothing beats being happy, but people get sad. So is life. 

In the spirit of accepting the negative along with the positive, here's how I was feeling a few days ago; I waited to share this so as to avoid posting belligerent rantings of, what felt like, an unsatisfactory life at the time.

 

I'm tired of being paralyzed.

I'm tired of not being able to do things without asking for someone's help.

I'm tired of not being able to close the window when I'm cold.

I'm tired of not being able to have a drink when I'm thirsty or eat when I'm hungry.

I'm tired of being so vulnerable.

I'm tired of being strong.

I'm tired of being weak.

I'm tired of being brave.

I'm tired of trying.

I'm tired of believing in myself.

I'm tired of feeling inadequate.

I'm tired of feeling like I'm a burden on others.

I'm tired of waiting.

I'm tired of of my lack of confidence.

I'm tired of feeling angry.

I'm tired of feeling sad.

I'm tired... Of being tired.

 

As most things, these feelings subside, but to deny they exist taints the pure joy we feel when the pain subsides as it lurks in the shadows. Without this pain there is no joy. We live in a society where we must hide our suffering, but suffering is what makes us utterly human.  I'm not saying you should let the bad things keep you down, but to acknowledge them so you can let them go.

So don't be so hard on yourself. Let yourself be sad sometimes. It'll all be ok; even though that's the last thing you want to hear when you feel like everything around you is crumbling away into the abyss.